The Public Library A Job-Seekers Best Friend -

The Public Library A Job-Seekers Best Friend -Technology is everywhere these days. Its hard to get any sort of job that doesnt require at least a basic knowledge of e-mail and word processing programs. Any position working with data generally requires using Excel, and many administrative positions require someone familiar with PowerPoint and Publisher.If youve been out of the workforce for a while, or your previous positions didnt require using these programs, how are you supposed to learn? One resource that many people dont consider is the public library. Libraries across the country now offer classes, ranging from computer basics like typing to mora complex topics such as using PowerPoint to create presentations. Some localities offer more advanced classes like digital photography and grant writing. Certain libraries even offer one-on-one tutoring with a teacher. Best of all, classes at public libraries are almost always free, although some require you to have a current library car d for that locality.Perhaps you already have strong fundamental computer skills, but you need to learn a certain program in order to get the job you want. Lets say, for instance, that youre interested in going into project management, but you dont know how to use Microsoft Project. A simple solution? Check out Microsoft Project for Dummies from the public library. If youre in marketing and want to break into e-marketing, there are also books like The Truth About Search Engine Optimization. If youre going into business for yourself for the first time, books such as Legal Guide for Starting and Running a Small Business can be a valuable resource.In addition to offering classes and books on numerous technology topics, almost all public libraries provide Internet access, with many offering wifi as well. If you live in a smaller town with no businesses such as a Kinkos nearby, the library is also an excellent resource for printing and copying services. As an added bonus, libraries freque ntly have mailboxes outside, allowing you to immediately send your resumes on their way.Your local public library contains many low-cost resources for your job search. Whether or not finances are tight during your job search, the library can be your best friendJessica Holbrook Hernandez is an expert resume writer, career and personal branding strategist, author, speaker and President/CEO of Great Resumes Fast. She creates high-impact, best-in-class, resumes and cover letters that transform job searches into interviews and ultimately job offers. For more information about professional resume writing or to read more career and job search related articles visit http//www.greatresumesfast.com or call 1.800.991.5187.

4 Pieces of Classic Relationship Advice That Just Dont Hold Up In 2019

4 Pieces of Classic Relationship Advice That Just Dont Hold Up In 2019 Todays dating and relationship landscape is elendhing like it was for previous generations. Growing up, it was heavily implied that I needed to get my Mrs. degree as quickly as possible, because I would need a joint income in order to live a comfortable life.That, uh, didnt pan out. Here I am at age 31 I have almost all of my student debt paid off, and Im financially independent. Im also single and dating. Its difficult for me to imagine a world where I did get married in my twenties, because, at least in my situation, it feels like antiquated advice. If I had pushed myself into marriage, it would have ended in an early divorce. I simply wasnt ready or emotionally mature enough for that kind of commitment back then.However, urging individuals to settle down quickly is still classic relationship advice. The mora I think about it, the more I realize theres a lot of outdated relationship advice that just doesnt work in 2019. Here are four other examples.1. Wait three days after the first date to ask a person out on another date.What is the three day rule, and where did it come from? According to eHarmony, this is a traditional tactic where men make women wait three days before calling to ask them on another date. Why three days? Supposedly, three days is enough to make a woman want a man more. It also gives men enough time to figure out if their date is worth further pursuit.Personally, everything about this rule makes me and likely many reading this want to barf. The three day rule is basically the equivalent of 300 years in 2019s swipe heavy, text-friendly and very online dating culture. The person you went out with three days ago has probably gone on another date since then. They dismissed you as a potential interest since, well, you didnt show interest fast enough. Its not a romantic gesture, nor is it chivalrous. To prozentanteil Ariana Grande, its thank u, next classic relationship adv ice that deserves to bite the dust.Licensed mental health counselor Michelle Terry doesnt advise playing the waiting game, either. She warns that all it does is breed questions and doubts about if there is mutual interest. Follow Terrys tell them within 24 hours rule instead.If you had a good time on a date, dont wait to let it be known Terry says. Tell them either right at the end in person that you had a good time and would like to binnensee them again, or tell them within 24 hours. The less waiting and wondering, the better.2. Couples should do everything together.Sometimes, Instagram makes it look as though couples are physically incapable of posting content where they are not joined at the hip. Imagine doing everything as a couple. Everything. All day, every day, for years on end. This piece of classic relationship advice presumes that you would always enjoy this, never get tired of it and grow stronger as a couple because you do everything together.The reality, especially toda y, is that this would be flirty and fun for all of two days (at best) before youd start to develop internal cabin fever. Its also behavior that is indicative of deeper issues under the surface. Dr. Susan Mendelsohn, a licensed clinical psychologist, says that when a couple tells her they do everything together, she knows they have a communication problem.This is a lack of intimate communication, Mendelsohn explains. One lebensabschnittsgefhrte is more passive and willing to do anything to avoid causing waves in the relationship. Hence, the dependent, insecure partner.Eventually, Mendelsohn says, both partners become resentful of each other. This is because it is truly impossible for any two people to want to do exactly the saatkorn thing all the time. The best advice is not to do everything together. Theres nothing implying that you are no longer in love when you prioritize your own needs and development as one-half of a couple.Its important to find ones personal identity and indepe ndence in order for a healthy relationship to last, Mendelsohn advises.3. Let sleeping dogs lie.Lets get you up to speed if youre not familiar with this classically terrible piece of relationship advice. Basically, letting sleeping dogs lie means ignoring or avoiding an issue to the best of your ability so as not to get into a fight. Couples should find a way to deal with and resolve the issue, but are largely concerned that ensuing emotions may be more trouble than what its worth.This classic relationship advice makes the assumption that if you disagree with your partner in any way, shape, or form, you clearly cant be together. But thats the foundation all healthy relationships are built uponHeather Lyons is a licensed psychologist, couples counselor and owner of the Baltimore Therapy Group. Shes not a fan of this old school advice because it isnt a disagreement that harms a relationship. Disagreements, according to Lyons, help couples right the course of their relationships and fi ne tune. Instead, what harms the relationship is the way couples argue together.Healthy couples fight, Lyons says. What healthy couples dont do is criticize one another, get defensive during fighting, show contempt during fights or shut down arguments in a controlling or one-sided manner.4. Men do not want to marry smart women.One of the first questions I like to ask when Im on a date with a man is what life is like for guys on dating apps. My presumption is that the flip side of the coin has got to be spectacular. There must be so many witty, funny, wonderful women out there to choose fromThe men Ive spoken to, at least those in the Los Angeles area where I live, dont see it that way. Increasingly, their chief complaint is that they will go out with a woman who is very pretty. However, these same men quickly discover wait for it that subsequent dates afterwards require the pair to speak to one another.The next thing I know, Im seated in front of a 36-year-old man telling me (rath er earnestly, too) that he has had an epiphany. He needs to date, and be with, a smart woman. Its an attractive feature to be able to hold a conversation with another person.Really, I deadpan in response.I feel like bestowing him a hero award. This is a term my dad and I coined when I was in high school. We would sarcastically applaud individuals self-martyring themselves through life with a hero award. So brave and noble of these men to finally understand that they must talk to the person they may potentially marry one day A heroMendelsohn urges women not to believe the myth that men dont want to marry smart women. I have learned that men, secure ones, enjoy intelligent women with whom they can converse.I couldnt agree more. Only seek a smart partner, and beware those with insecurity issues that see your smarts as a threat (which typically red flag themselves pretty early on). Take the idea that men dont want to marry smart women outside, get a shovel and dig a small ditch to bury this wildly misogynistic piece of relationship advice deep inside.